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Thursday, January 18, 2007
Are you ever to old to have a baby?
I ran across this article, which was published on MSNBC a few months ago. Like the LAF website, this falls into the category of "I don't know what to make of this." While on some level I agree with the author that 66 may be too old to have a child, I don't agree with the way he has gendered his reasoning. His reasoning is simple: the parent may die before the child reaches adulthood. In the beginning, he cites the numerous well-known men who have had children over the age of 55--Tony Randall, Donald Trump, Larry King, Luciano Pavarotti, and others--along side well known women who have had women past the age of 45--Cheryl Tiegs and Geena Davis are the two he cites. I immediately noticed the age differences. I also immediately noticed that Tiegs and Davis have been open about the fertility treatments they went through to become pregnant while all of the men were able to conceive naturally. The author goes on to state "My proposal is that anyone over sixty-five who is single should not use reproductive technology to have a child. If you have a partner, then your total ages should not be more than 130. And if you are female and at or near fifty-five years of age and going to carry a pregnancy, then you can use reproductive technology only if you can pass a tough physical examination. Sixty-six—forget it." This sounds like a reasonable proposal (although a bit intrusive and I'd also like to know who made him the fertility police), but what is implicit in his argument is the assumption that he will only "police" those who need fertility treatment. Seventy-plus- year-old men can (and do) impregnate women without fertility treatment, so the author is seemingly arguing that post-menopausal women are those who should not have children. Further, his pronouns after the above quoted paragraph are almost exclusively feminine. Women, then, cannot have children past the age of 45, but men can continue to have children as long as they can get a prescription for Viagra. There seems to be a flaw in his argument. Is age really so important when it comes to parenting? Perhaps we should judge parents by their parenting skills rather than by their ability to become pregnant or to impregnate someone else.
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